Baby's dad not involved?

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  • im a solo mum with a 5mnth old son, my babys dad and i broke up when i was 4mnths pregnant and we live in different towns, since my son was born his dad has only been to visit once even though ive given him plenty of opportunitues and have tried to make him feel welcome but he just makes excuses and its starting to p*ss me off should i give him another chance or cut him out completely? what do u think?


  • Give him one more chance. Tell him that too. If he fails then cut him out.


  • Cut his A$$ out and take him for every penny he's WORTH!!!!!! TOTAL props for raising a baby on your own it's hard work and it takes a very special person to raise a baby on there own!!!!


  • You cannot force the father to be apart of the childs life although you want so badly for your child to know its father I know its hard and you wish you would have made better decisions. The father of your child is just still in uncertainty about how to react maybe he wasnt ready to be a father or maybe there are other reasons why he fills he should be apart of the childs life you and him need to sit down adult to adult and talk that over but let him know that you are not trying to force anything on him cause that will only scare him away. He will come around eventually. Me and my childs father split to he didnt have anthing to do with her for a long time then he started relizing that even though he was very young he had a responsibility and when he saw he he fell in love he calls all he time now and always wants to see her he lives an hour and ahalf away from us. I have faith your childs father will come around.


  • Well, it's really not up to you. It's up to the courts. He has rights, whether he excersizes them r not. I am in a very similar situation so I've talked to a lawyer about this. Just file for child support and let him go about his business. Don't try to stop him from seeing the child, that will look really bad in court if he asks for visitation. Also, technically neither of you has custody so you need to file for primary custody.


  • nope...child support time!!!

    Me and my ex husband broke up when i was 3 months prego with our 3 year old daughter..he was to busy whoring around to worry about his kids...It never worked out and i put up with it for 2 1/2 years till i was done with him and his games and i fanally put child support on him and now he wants to come around and be a dad ..to late for that


  • You can't legally "cut him out completely." However, it seems that he's done that all on his own. Stop pushing him to visit your son, and he will probably just disappear in time. You don't have to give him another chance, he doesn't want it anyways.


  • let him make the effort to see baby or u will drive urself crazy....and get ur child support!!!!! either way...if he's 2 immature, he will regret it one day...


  • How about giving him one more chance and if it happens again dont bother trying to contact him or get him involved but try to keep track of him so that the day your little boy asks the "daddy" questions and wants to meet him he can..


  • Get child support first and as long as he is giving his son his dues who cares if he comes to see him or not. Move on with your life, build your career find a new man and take good care of your precious little one. for all i care he can go to hell but pay child support while there.


  • Aww i am sorry to hear that hun but stay strong and hang in there. You dont need him anyways.

    But i would say always leave the door open for him to step up and be a part of his childs life. Just dont sit around and wait for it to happen. Just let him know that if he decides to man up then he is welcome but if not then you can handle everything on your own with out him.

    Also make sure you get child support


  • not at all. you need to go for child support just keep doin what ur doin being mommy and daddy... he has plenty of chances to be in his life now its just a lil too late.


  • no - why should you give him another chance?? he is the father of your child, he chosen not to see his own child - what kind of a father is that?? he is not nice to either you or baby. Use all your energy on your bundle of joy!! dont waste your energy on him, your baby needs you to be 100% happy. forget about him and concentrate on YOUR baby!! make sure you both are happy. Your baby needs you!


  • I would tell him he is getting one last chance and if he doesn't step up to it that you are legally going to get child support from him. If he's any way responsible he will take the chance and realise it's the mature decision. If not then he got a warning and you will just have to be strong and do it alone. But make sure you get the child support from him. Good luck.







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